Grief
Grief is like a
tempest blurring the boundaries between sky and sea. It is an intense
experience when people go into a sort of 'shutdown' mode and the world around
seems to be drowned in abysmal darkness. We all go through such phases of
sorrow and emptiness where clarity seems to be the most unattainable thing. It
could be due to a sense of loss, fear, rejection, illusion. The hours seem long
and the days longer. The entire meaning of existence seems to be spinning on a
single event or individual.
To an outsider,
a grief-stricken person would seem weak and bizarre, the changes in her
behaviour unusual, her laziness annoying and strange. In a way it is the most
unproductive phase of a person’s life when her mind is buzzing with whirling,
snarling emotions that can only leave her incapable of doing anything useful.
Even daily chores such as cleaning up the house, arranging the kitchen or
folding clothes seem Herculean task. And one just wants to sit in a corner and
brood over the weight of life.
It is also a
period of intense loneliness when even the best of artists fail to express
themselves. One completely loses track of reality and thinks, thinks and
thinks. And the thoughts are often self-created dark, devilish sparks of the
mind.
So how do we
come out of it? The first remedy for this, perhaps, would be to accept the cause
of grief in one’s life. It is also important to come to terms with the fact
that life embraces you only when you open up to it. It is not wise to get stuck
into a particularly interesting situation, phase or a person. The greatest of
human experiences lie in embracing change, discomfort and work. We should not
define ourselves on the basis of any external agent. And in being so, we can
open up endless possibilities for ourselves and connect with the deeper
realities, mysteries and magic of the world.
ENDS
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